It’s possible many if not all of us are grieving. “Grieving what?” you might ask. All that fell short of expectations. All I did that I shouldn’t have - guilt. All I didn’t do that I should have - opportunity lost. All that was done to me that I wish wasn’t - shame. All that wasn’t done for me that I wish had - longing. When these things did or didn’t happen to another we might have empathy but nothing like when it is about me.