Self-Love

What is this thing: self-love?

Why does it matter? It matters because it matters how we treat ourselves. How we treat ourselves directly affects how we treat others.

All too often, men don’t treat themselves well. They self-medicate. They drink. They smoke. More importantly they tell themselves bad things.

Growing up competing and being coached for better performance, often shame was used: you aren’t trying hard enough. You aren’t enough. When I buy into that, I am buying into self-loathing: shame and guilt. It lasts. To motivate myself I use the same language: come on you lazy piece of shit.