Heroes & Martyrs
When GreatGuys talks about martyrs, heroes, adults and children, We aren’t talking about real heroes or victims. Instead, we are talking about the roles we PLAY. That’s about what happened in the past as opposed to what is happening in the present.
The martyr role come in two flavors: victim and bully.
Just like narcissists come in two flavors: covert and overt.
The hero role enables or rescues for a reward.
Covert means under the radar. Overt: right out where you can see it. Both roles are justified by poor me: I have been wronged.
Bullies want to get even, want revenge. Victims seek support. Either wants control of the emotional space: there’s no room for anyone else’s agenda. We all have been wronged at one time. And, we get to choose what role we play.
How about you?
