Loneliness in a committed relationship can feel difficult.

Learn to communicate your needs and boundaries.

Limerence, the space which includes all the intense romantic feelings you have for the other person, doesn’t last forever. It only lasts long enough for us to push our own needs aside for our romantic partners.

The biggest problem of being in limerence is trying to please the other person so much that we forget it’s okay to be “selfish.” It’s not selfish to focus on yourself and your needs before intertwining your life with another person. It’s responsible.

• How you enter a difficult conversation has a definite effect on whether or not the conflict becomes destructive or creative.

• You might open people's minds with the emotions you bring into the conversation and the way you listen to their views.

• Remaining calm, curious, and respectful might open doors to finding a solution that fulfills the similarities you find in the outcomes you want.

• Setting and communicating boundaries can be a valuable skill in healthy relationships.

• Attachment styles sometimes inform the boundaries people set and how they set them.

• The goal of boundary-setting is to protect oneself and stay connected to others at the same time.

Couples struggle with chronic disagreements that do not get resolved by re-hashing old upsets.

People think that if their partner changes then they will be happy. But one's level of irritation is distinct from their level of happiness.

Exercises to improve listening and appreciation can help build a foundation of giving and receiving.

Abusers use gaslighting as a way to gain and maintain power and control in the relationship. They break down your confidence over time by making you think your interpretation of events is incorrect. The more you second-guess yourself, the more you start to believe their version must be the accurate one.

Relationships exist on a continuum. At first, you experience real connectionless contact, while at the opposite end you feel supported, affirmed, and fully accepted. In between, you feel attached and the relationship feels functional, but you want a closer connection.

• Healthy boundaries and self-esteem make us less reactive to other people.

• When someone pushes your buttons, learn to manage that person so that you're not easily triggered and manipulable.

• Anger often covers up real hurt or vulnerability, blame may be hiding guilt, and self-blame may be displaced anger we have toward someone else.

• Curiosity has many benefits: It makes people think harder about problems and respond better to stress, for instance.

• The fear of looking unintelligent, or blind trust in someone else, can dampen curiosity.

• Confirmation bias and moralizing have a particularly detrimental effect on the ability to stay curious.

The concept of the individual making choices for themselves is central to the philosophies, institutional structures, and common sense of individualist cultures. But is it true?

Everyone experiences stress in their daily lives. You aren’t going to stop stressful things from happening. But the extent to which you can tie them off, bring them to an end and resolve them is definitely going to pay dividends in terms of your well-being